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Self-Help:  Surviving With No Money 
 
c. 2008 Cricket Diane C Phillips, (and Mom), 2008 (used with permission)
 
 
     Okay!  Now you've found yourself in a financial mess, what do you do? 
After awhile, when a new job or other financial opportunity hasn't been 
located, there are definite, tangible events that will take place. 
 
     First, any of the moneys that have been set aside or were available to 
handle things until new income sources are found, will sooner or later get 
skimpy. 
 
     Second, time will pass. It may be days, weeks, months and maybe longer, 
but time will pass. 
 
     Third, and this is serious - needs will continue, whatever they are. 
The solutions that were generated to satisfy these needs were likely based 
on money.  That is good until there gets to be less money than it takes to 
have those needs met. 
 
     So, now that you are at this point, there are some steps you can take: 
  
     1. Make a list of personal assets - 
 
         Do not skip this step.  You will need it as you work through the 
other steps.  People have all kinds of abilities. Some are used in their 
jobs and some are not.  It is very important to know what they are at the 
earliest possible stage of this process. 
 
     This list of personal assets is an ongoing list, as you think of other 
items, add them to the list.  Start with the obvious; such as, you show up 
when you are expected, you care about doing something about the situation in 
which you are living, and, that you have held jobs before and done well in 
them. Make the list of as many items as you can think of, try to list at 
least 25 -50 assets, so that you have a lot of things to work with to get 
out of this temporary situation.  If you work at it diligently, it will be a 
temporary situation, not a permanent one.. 
 
     Keep this list where you will see it fairly regularly on the bathroom 
mirror, taped on the inside of the kitchen cabinet, or in your sock drawer. 
It will save your sanity in so many ways that you will be surprised. 
 
     If you have two or more individuals of money-making age in your 
household, have everyone make their lists, place the list where the 
individuals that belong to them can see them. 
 
     2. Take stock of available assets – 
 
          Look around for stuff that can be sold.  It can be collected 
physically into one specific space, like the garage or a spare room.  You 
could put a box in a room or a box in several rooms and add stuff to the box 
as you find it and price it, then it will be ready to be sold in a yard or 
garage sale.  You could make a list as you look around and locate things 
that can be sold to get some money to get through this phase of your life. 
 
     If you have bought something recently, you will probably be able to 
take it back and get your money back.  Always save receipts. 
 
     If you have things that can be sold, you might want to advertise in the 
Thrifty Nickel, on Ebay, Craigslist or other internet sites.  If you have 
collectibles, you can go to the library and look up the magazines that are 
about collectors and collections.  There are also magazines for collectors 
at book stores, such as Barnes and Noble, Borders, and Books a Million. 
There are places to sit where you can sit down and browse through the books 
and magazines.  There is usually a list of ads in the back of the book for 
people who are looking for items for their collections. Hopefully, someone 
will be looking for something that you have; and, you will be able to sell 
it to them. 
 
     There are also books, such as Kovels that give the going price of 
antiques and books that show the price of collectibles.  The library might 
have some books that would be helpful. Some are only located in the reference 
section. 
 
     Consider assets that could be redeemed, such as life insurance 
policies, stocks, jewelry, expensive cars to trade in or sell, boats, 
vacation properties, cemetery plots, or extra things that you can live 
without. 
 
     Cars and boats need to be advertised or put in a popular place with a 
sign on them, and sold by owner.  That way you save any commissions that 
would be charged by a company. 
 
     If you sell your vehicle with a for sale sign, you save the money for 
the ad in the newspaper.  When you sell it, make sure to cancel your 
insurance and make sure the ownership transfer is signed and filed. 
 
     If you sell a house or condo, make sure that you are never responsible 
for the property in the future.  This will require additional paper work. 
Possibly as simple as writing up an agreement that you have no further 
responsibility for the property and get it signed by the lenders and buyers. 
   Make sure the papers are notarized.  
 
   Some grocery stores, banks, and other places notarize free or very 
inexpensively.  
 
   Make sure that you make copies to give to all the parties.  Keep the original 
and keep it in a fireproof box in a safe place.  Always keep originals or if an 
original has to be submitted, then have two signed and notarized and keep 
one, as well as, a couple of copies. 
 
     List stuff considered collectibles, gold, silver, stamps, other 
valuables, antiques, old coins, art deco furniture and objects, character 
items, dolls. cooky cutters, old pipes, bells, old glass, sheet music, 
books, especially first editions and signed books, silverware, old glass, 
baseball cards and other collectible cards, toys, art, salt shakers, 
ceramics, china and porcelain. 
 
     Try to find a collector or a private party, otherwise if you sell 
through or to a dealer you lose at least 30-60%. Dealers pay less than 
others for coins, antiques and everything else.  They have expenses, such 
as, rent and utilities.  They have to make a profit in order to stay in 
business.   If you have anyone come to your house to look at your items for 
sale, make sure that you have someone at home with you.  Make sure that you 
aren't talking to one person while another is taking stuff out behind your 
back. 
 
     There are consignment shops where some items can be placed. This will 
cost a percentage or a fee for renting the space.  If you rent a space, you 
will probably need a resale number and a business license.  These cost 
money; and, you have paper work to keep up with.  If you can get an antique 
shop to take your items for a percentage, then it won't cost you anything if 
the item doesn't sell.  Make sure that you have a paper stating the 
agreement between the antique dealer and you.  It needs to be signed by you 
and the antique dealer, the date and the date that the item is to be picked 
up, with what the item is, how much it is to be sold for, and how much you 
will owe or what percentage when the item is sold and no fee if the item is 
not sold. 
 
     For more valuable collectibles and specialty collectibles, there are 
conventions and trading shows where you can network for interested parties 
or trade / sell at the show.  It is expensive to rent a space at a trade 
show; but, you might be able to get someone who has a booth to also show 
your product for a small fee that would help them offset the huge fee that 
they have to pay to be in the trade show. 
 
     The best prices may be outside the show, either afterwards by 
arrangement, or letting interested buyers know of where it will be on 
auction and when.  Give out your email address to those who show an interest 
in items. 
 
     If you don't have anything to sell, save as much money as you can and 
go to yard sales and get inexpensive items that you can sell for more money. 
Then take that money and buy more to sell.  Keep using the profits to buy 
other things and sell them, until you start seeing a way out of your 
financial poverty. 
 
     3. Find who wants to buy what and where are they? 
 
     Figure out how to let them know what you have for the most advantageous 
return to you. 
 
      Is the best way to auction it online or at an auction house somewhere? 
 
     Antiques usually go lower at an auction.  So, if you go the auction 
route, you might want to set a minimum price, see if there is a charge for 
this.  Find out if they have a premium price that buyers or sellers have to 
pay.  Find out all the charges that you have to pay before you auction 
something off; so, you won't be surprised and end up with less money that 
you thought that you would get.  Get everything in writing if you can. 
 
     Most physical auction houses are listed online for your area with their 
address, phone number and contact person. Many are listed in the phone book 
and other buyers at the auction will sometimes tell you about other places 
where auctions are taking place. 
 
     Is it better to find individual collectors through "want to buy" ads, 
online, in newspapers, or on auction sites? 
 
     It could be possible that collectors have websites filled with 
information for their members, where items could also be offered for sale. 
Many of these online sites have places to list items for sale or trade among 
its members. Often there is no cost to become a member. 
 
     4.  Discover what other resources are nearby, in the community and 
online. 
 
     Check bulletin boards at the library, grocery stores, car repair 
places, community centers, colleges, SBA (small business administration), 
churches and social services offices.  Some agencies have community 
resources booklets, see if you can locate one and get a copy. 
 
     Ask around about what kinds of things might be available to help with 
specific needs 
 
      If you can find bulletin boards, use them to advertise what you have 
to sell.  If you need a job put an ad on the internet and bulletin boards, 
include what kind of job that you are looking for.  The courts have lots of 
jobs that are not advertised, such as, typing tapes of court testimony, 
delivering documents, filing papers for attorneys.  Go to, or call city hall 
and ask where jobs bulletins are posted - same for county and state offices. 
You can look up jobs on the internet and in newspapers, most have internet 
sites. 
 
      Hospitals have people typing up charts and putting patient info on the 
computer. In the hospital administration offices, there is usually a 
bulletin of job postings.  Don't be embarrassed, call somebody until you 
find out what you want to know.  You have nothing to lose and everything to 
gain.  You don't have a job now, so if you don't get one, you are no worse 
off, if you get one, you are on the way. 
 
     You could get a paper route for a temporary solution to buy food for 
you and your family if you have transportation. 
 
      Malls have job bulletins posted in the hall by their main offices and 
their development / management companies have jobs, too. There are also 
subcontractors that serve the mall's needs which are often hiring without 
placing these jobs in the newspaper. 
 
      5.  Check government and social services access - find out what and 
 where it is available - 
 
      Ask at churches for information about what is available through them 
and if they know about other resources in the community. Ask at union halls 
for information and check their bulletin boards, also. Some listings to sell 
items or for needs can be listed in union newsletters and on their members' 
websites. 
 
     Go to the library or on a computer and look up government grants, maybe 
there are some that you could pursue. There are books in the reference 
section of the library that list all the grants available through 
government, public and private sources. 
 
      6.  What ideas are sitting on the shelf that could be used to create a 
business - 
 
      *  What needs are obvious in the local community that a business could 
serve and make a profit. 
 
      * There are many books in the library to help create your business. They 
include checklists, how-to and what types of businesses work the best. 
 
      Find out what the local government wants for a business license and go 
make money serving the needs in your community as a business. 
 
     7.  Learn to make healthy inexpensive meals for your family - 
 
  *  Things like cans of tuna or salmon can be put with noodles or made into 
a casserole and add a vegie, maybe a can of peas. or a salad and you have a meal.  
 
  * Potatoes are usually inexpensive for a bag. A potato can be baked in an oven for about an 
hour at 450 degrees or until done, or baked in a microwave for 6-8 minutes, 
or until it kind of crumbles when you push on it.  Potatoes can be sliced 
and fried in a little bit of butter or oil.  They can get fried with onions, 
broccoli, carrots, squash, zucchini. You can add ham or some meat or eggs to 
the stir fry and it puts protein into the mix.  You need fruits and veggies, as 
well as protein and carbo's. 
 
  * You can't live on ramens and peanut butter over a long period of time 
and stay healthy and have good judgment. It is absolutely necessary to have 
protein, fruit and calcium each day for every member of the family. It is more 
important than paying the credit card bill, more important than getting some fast 
food because you want it and more important than running across town twice when 
once can do both things at the same time. 
 
 * Oatmeal, the kind that you cook could provide a healthy inexpensive 
Breakfast. Add banana and milk and it also provides calcium and potassium. 
 
 * Eggs and toast make an inexpensive meal.  There are usually discount 
bread stores that you can get bread less expensive than at the grocery 
store.  If you can get a couple of extra loaves of bread and store them in 
the freezer or the refrigerator, the bread should last longer. 
 
 * There are grocery stores such as Save A Lot, that have canned 
vegetables and fruits that are very inexpensive and they are good. Most do 
not include extra salt or sugar in them. 
 
 * You can take cans of vegs, and tomato juice, potatoes, carrots, celery, 
onions, cans of mixed vegs and make a great veg soup, If you want veg/beef 
soup, just add a can or two of roast beef, such as Armour roast beef in the 
fat short cans, chop the meat sideways to keep it from being stringy.  Cook 
until the potatoes are done.  It is good reheated the next day and for 
however long it lasts.  You can serve crackers or cornbread with the soup. 
or small cornbread johnny cakes--put about a cup or two of cornmeal mix in 
a bowl, add enough milk to moisten it and drop by spoonfuls in hot oil or 
butter and fry.  Turn when one side is done. These cook quickly 
 
     Many stores have double Sunday papers for $2.50 on Sunday afternoons. 
A single Sunday paper is $2.00, so it is a better deal to get two if you are 
going to use the coupons; because, you get twice the coupons.  When you clip 
coupons, only use the ones for items you need and use, unless it is free or 
almost free. 
 
     Rebate forms can be used to get cash back or products. 
 
     8.  Make a brief list of things you really need right now - 
 
      For things that you need there is Free Cycle across the country. In 
Cobb county, you join freecycle Cobb. You have to join online and then 
donate something; then you can ask for things that you need. 
 
      Also available - you can list items for trade or barter on craigslist 
or place listing for items you need and what you will trade or that you are 
looking to buy it reasonably. 
 
  *  Find out what assets that you have and what they are worth.  It might 
not be advisable to redeem them because you lose money and won't have them 
later if you need them.  However, what you need to do now, you will do; and, 
you are capable of working with your assets in the best way possible. 
 
      Between couples whose finances are intertwined - all these matters 
need to be considered jointly and openly with one another throughout the 
process. What you sell affects others in your family - be open about it and why. 
 
 9.  As a last resort - 
 
     If you can get SSI, there is less government involvement in your life 
than having to go through a case worker at social services.  Food stamps 
might also be available for your situation, usually through family and 
children services even if you are a single person. 
 
     Sometimes there is an unearned tax refund.  Check with IRS.  If there 
is money available take advantage of it.  If you paid taxes and are due a 
refund, make sure that you file the proper forms and get that to which you 
are entitled. 
 
     If you are raising grandchildren you should be able to get kinship care 
funds. 
 
     If you get SSI, the children may also qualify for it. 
 
     SSI applications are made through the Social Security Administration 
office. There is an appeals process that is commonly necessary before 
receiving it but not always. Application processes take several months. 
 
     There are food banks in your community. Expect to take identification and proof of 
your income or lack thereof, possibly utility bills and rent receipts. 
 
     For necessary medicines, some of the pharmaceutical companies are 
helping with that. Check with your doctor, pharmacist, church, social worker 
or online by name of manufacturer, name of drug. There is a program for 
low-cost, sliding scale and possibly free medications for those in need that 
is being run by the pharmaceutical companies. 
 
     Practice this sentence, " Doctor, do you have any samples?"
 
     Wal Mart and some other pharmacies have a list of generic medicines 
for only $4.00.  See if there is a medicine that is on the list that will do the same thing 
that a more expensive drug would cost and have your doctor prescribe that medicine. 
 
   10.  Some important notes about where you are now - 
 
  * BUYING ON SALE DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE MONEY YOU SAVED! 
 
 - Buying on sale does not give you the money you saved unless the item is 
critical to your survival and at a price and quantity you can use right now. 
 
  * Beans alone are not a sufficient protein source - when you think of 
protein for each day - this means, meat, chicken, fish, eggs, beef, pork, 
tuna, salmon, etc. They are expensive and without them, you and your family 
won't survive the stresses ahead of you.  Beans and rice make a complete 
protein when eggs, chicken or beef are added to them. 
 
  * When you get down - and it seems hopeless - make a list of 25 things you 
are grateful for - start the list with this one - write it down: 
 
   1.   "I am glad we have toilet paper." 
 
    If you don't have that, then you're really going to have to think of 
something to start your list. And, make the list anyway. Then, get on with 
it because a new world of discovery awaits you and your family as you make 
this journey. It is a process and each part holds new things to learn, to 
explore and new possibilities and opportunities. You have the good sense you 
need - use it. 
 
PRAY.  GOD HOLDS THE UNIVERSE IN HIS HANDS,   YOU ARE IMPORTANT TO HIM. 
PRAY And - Take the actions you need to take as intelligently as you can. 
 
Written by Cricket Diane C Phillips and Mom on 3-12-08